Brochure Misbruik door Hulpverleners (MdH)

English Version

 

 

 Misbruik door Hulpverleners (MdH)

 

Abuse by Helping Professionals

 

 

 

I N F O R M A T I O N   &  

S U P P O R T

 

 

regarding sexual, mental, emotional, and physical misconduct by professionals

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sexual contact  – of any kind whatsoever – is never acceptable in a professional relationship. Sexual or other misconduct by professionals is always wrong, unethical, and criminal. Such behavior by a physician, therapist, teacher, trainer, or clergyman is in violation of professional ethics.

 

When a professional in a health service, school, sport or church has abused his power or authority through sexual, mental, emotional or physical misconduct, contact us.

 

As the client, you are always in the weaker position in a professional relationship. By definition, there is an imbalance of power, and you are dependent on the professional. Because of the imbalance of power, and the fact that exclusively the professional is responsible for the professional relationship, sexual contact or an affair can never be blamed on the client.

 

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Professional Sexual Misconduct (PSM)

How common is it?

 

Research indicates that about 10% of all professionals commit PSM at some time in their careers. More than half of them are repeat offenders.

 

 

What you can find on our web site

·          Information about PSM from scientific & legal point of view and personal experiences of victims/survivors.

·          DE WARANDE: a virtual meeting point for victims/survivors. This is a closed forum on which one can make contacts; share experiences and information; and offer each other support. It is meant to be a safe haven for dealing with trauma.

·          An open forum for discussion

·          A bulletin board for seeking other victims/survivors (of the same perpetrator) of PSM.

·          A place to report PSM.

·          Personal stories, poems, and other creative contributions by victims/survivors.

·          Daily news updates.

·          Free subscription to our weekly newsletter.

·          Publication of AdvocateWeb’s Message of Hope.

  • Links to other related organizations and web sites.

 

 

Transference is not love

 

PSM is very similar to incest, and is therefore sometimes called therapeutic incest. Due to the major imbalance of power, the victim/survivor can never be deemed to have consented. Accountability is always fully owed by the person who is responsible for guarding and maintaining the professionalism of the relationship: the professional. This is equally true when the initiative for sexual contact is made by the client. The term ‘in love’ is never appropriate. These are feelings of transference, originating with a trusted person from the past, which are transferred tot the professional, and not love for the professional himself.

 

Transference refers to feelings which the client, patient, or parishioner has for the caregiver or minister which are based on projections of feelings associated with key figures from the past or strong needs.  These may be feelings of excessive affection, trust, or even anger.

 

Countertransference refers to feelings that a counselor, therapist or helping professional develops towards the person with whose care he has been entrusted.

 

 

For whom is this site intended?

 

This website is intended in particular for victims/survivors of mental health professionals. The site is firstly a place for victims/survivors of PSM to meet, exchange experiences, offer mutual support, and provide information. Victims/survivors are clients/patients, students/pupils, and religious community members who have (had) a sexual or social relationship with a professional in the relevant field. Indirect victims/survivors (spouses, friends, family, and colleagues of both the victim/survivor and the offending professional) can also contact us. In regard to information, we also welcome professionals (therapists, patient advocates, teachers, clergy, policy makers, politicians, professional unions, attorneys, police, judges, journalists, organizations, etc.) Professionals who have been involved with PSM are also welcome on our site, and can, if they wish, contact us anonymously.

 

 

These can be victims/survivors of PSM by colleagues (i.e. teacher, trainer, supervisor) or professionals who have engaged in boundary crossing behaviour themselves.

Our site also recognizes female/female abuse. The phenomena of female perpetrators and male victims/survivors has unfortunately until today remained underexposed. Men who have been abused by professionals, and women who have been abused by female professionals, are of course also welcome on our site. We also try to expose the plight of particularly vulnerable populations, such as people with disabilities and immigrants.

 

 

The Consequences of PSM for Victims/survivors

 

Sexual misconduct by a professional is unprofessional, unethical, and illegal. Sexual contact with a professional can never have any kind of therapeutic function or value. In around 90% of the cases, the client sustains great and long-term damage.

Unfortunately, some people realize only years later, others never, that they were abused. Some people maintain the relationship for many years, and only very much later become aware of the abuse of trust and power that has occurred. Usually the damage suffered by the victim/survivor is iatrogenic, meaning it was not present before the treatment, but caused by that treatment. In some cases problems are involved that existed before the therapy, and recurred or became worse due to the abuse. The damage may be mental, psycho-somatic, psycho-sexual, social and/or financial. The majority sustain serious trauma and suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Their basic ability to trust, in particular in helping professionals, is seriously damaged. Some other examples of damage are copious, unjustified feelings of guilt and shame, fear, depression, irritability, reliving of the traumatic experiences, nightmares, inability to concentrate, and becoming suicidal. Often the victim/survivor becomes totally isolated.

 

Consequences of PSM for third parties

 

Spouses, family, and other parties in the victim/survivor’s social environment are also confronted with the consequences of PSM. Additionally, there can be secondary victims/survivors (among them colleagues) around the offending professional, whether male of female, who also experience consequences from the person’s behavior. The image of the offending professional’s entire profession is damaged. The cost to society is high. The victims/survivors are often for many years, not infrequently, permanently, unable to hold gainful employment. In addition, usually many years of therapy are needed to be able to somewhat overcome the psychological trauma.

 

PSM can happen to anybody

Anyone involved in a professional relationship can be exposed to abuse of trust and power by a professional. Victims form a heterogeneous group. It happens to men as well as women, children, adolescents, the elderly, well-educated people and less educated people. It even happens to professionals themselves. 

 

 

Our goals are

·          Prevention by offering correct information

·          Support for victims/survivors

·          Influence on current approaches

 

General Information

 

This web site was initiated by people with personal experiences with the subject matter, and exists since October 3, 2003. Our site includes over 200 pages, and receives about 70 visitors per day. We are in the process of establishing a foundation. 

 

 

Contact

 

Don’t hesitate to contact us, if you wish, anonymously. We treat all correspondence with the greatest of confidentiality. Contact us as well if you are wondering whether your health professional’s treatment or behavior is ethical or medically sound. You are also welcome if the relationship is still going, and you have questions.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

With kind regards,

The editor

 

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info@misbruikdoorhulpverleners.nl

 

0031 – 6 – 137 717 47

 

 

 

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